Being ‘fear fit’ is about:
identifying if the fear we are feeling is one that will help us, or if its a fear that will hurt us, and
expanding our comfort zone so we turn out to be increasingly more comfortable with feeling our fear and reacting as needs be.
Basically, fear can either protect us from getting hurt by preventing us from doing things we probably shouldn’t do (the ‘battle or flight’ mechanism), or fear can demonstrate to us what is truly important to us and turn into an indicator that aides us along our correct way.
Unfortunately, a large portion of us tend to identify the greater part of our fears as the ‘battle or flight’ sort and pass up a great opportunity for the opportunity of letting fear help us figure out what is truly important to us. All things considered, if what we were doing or thinking about doing wasn’t important to us, we wouldn’t give it a second thought on the off chance that we did it or not and we wouldn’t feel fear when we contemplated it or attempted to move towards it.
How Might You Tell in the event that You are Feeling a Good Fear
A decent fear would one say one is that is trying to help you, or a protective fear, one that is trying to prevent you from hurting yourself??
An effective technique is to recognize when you are feeling fearful and to identify what you are thinking about or doing that evoked the fear reaction.
Take, for example, a situation where you are thinking about making a noteworthy lifestyle change. You need to incorporate into your life something you have been dreaming about improving the situation quite a while, such as becoming independently employed or becoming a professional Travel Writer.
On the off chance that each time you start to consider opening your own business or being a Travel Writer you start to feel fearful, at that point you ought to analyze that fear. Inquire as to whether the fear is identifying something that is important to you, or is the fear trying to protect you from hurting yourself?
In the event that you trust the fear is trying to protect you from hurting yourself, at that point influence a rundown of everything you to can think about that may hurt you in the event that you rolled out this improvement. Experience the rundown and identify any fear that is identified with a situation that you can build up a coping strategy for. The coping strategy could be anything that either diminished the effect of the situation, changed the way you felt about the situation, or eliminated the situation all together.
Coping Strategies Can Help Overcome Fear
In the event that you can identify coping strategies for most or the greater part of the fears you identified, at that point the original fear you felt was probably going to have been a decent fear. This is the sort of fear that identifies things that are important to you and tells you are on your correct way.
I did this exercise as of late and was very surprised by the outcomes. Obviously, these weren’t my fears that I was analyzing, which made the exercise a ton easier to do.
A couple of years back a Location Independent/Digital Nomad Survey was run online to an audience that was either living the location independent lifestyle, or was to a great degree interested in creating an independent lifestyle. The creator’s of the examination identified 268 people responding to the investigation (94 individuals who were living a location independent lifestyle, and 174 aspiring location independents). The location independent lifestyle is a lifestyle outline that combines extensive go with a profession or independent work, something that requires a genuinely high fear limit.
One of the questions asked participants to identify fears that they had regarding either living this lifestyle, or planning to carry on with this lifestyle.
A sum of 86 special fears were shared by the 268 participants. Several of the fears were shared by many the respondents.
In looking at each fear I inquired as to whether I could build up a coping strategy for that fear, or if this was a ‘protective’ fear that identified a situation that would be absolutely past my control and therefore something I couldn’t build up a coping strategy for and ought to fear. More than 90% of the identified fears were fears that a coping mechanism could be identified for, with under 10% being the ‘protective’ sort of fear – fears that identified situations that were outside of the person’s control. What I discovered most interesting was that 80% of the ‘protective fears’ were identified by people who were at that point living a location independent lifestyle (these included fears of plane accidents, border control problems, not getting home in time if a friend or family member passed on, those sorts of fears).
Utilizing being ‘fear fit’, it appears that the aspiring Location Independent/Digital Nomads that participated in the survey were experiencing the ‘great fear’ – the sort of fear that indicates that they have discovered a lifestyle decision that is important to them.
So the principal half of being ‘fear fit’ is to identify and analyze your fears with the goal for you to determine which fears are acting like a ‘fear radar’ and are showing you what is important to you, and which fears are the ‘battle or flight’ kind of fears that are protecting you from hurt.
The second half of being ‘fear fit’ is to figure out how to discover the bravery to extend your comfort zone with the goal that you can quit letting your fears prevent you from doing things that are important to you.
One exceptionally effective technique for overcoming this sort of fear is to discover little, safe challenges in your life and do no less than one of these challenges consistently. Challenges could be as simple as finding another course to work or home from work; shopping in a store that you have never shopped in; adjust the furniture in one room of your home; take a stab at eating in another restaurant; have a go at having breakfast for supper.
Basically anything that takes you outside of your normal routine, that challenges your propensities can extend your comfort zone and cause inoculate yourself to little measures of fear.
As you end up comfortable with your recently extended comfort zone, challenge yourself once more. The key is to grow your comfort zone in little, simple steps. A little while later you will locate that both your fear tolerance level and your comfort zone have extended pleasantly.