ARE YOU “FEAR FIT”

Being ‘fear fit’ is about:

iden­ti­fy­ing if the fear we are feel­ing is one that will help us, or if its a fear that will hurt us, and

expanding our comfort zone so we turn out to be increasingly more comfortable with feeling our fear and reacting as needs be.

Basically, fear can either protect us from getting hurt by preventing us from doing things we probably shouldn’t do (the ‘battle or flight’ mechanism), or fear can demonstrate to us what is truly important to us and turn into an indicator that aides us along our correct way.

Unfortunately, a large portion of us tend to identify the greater part of our fears as the ‘battle or flight’ sort and pass up a great opportunity for the opportunity of letting fear help us figure out what is truly important to us. All things considered, if what we were doing or thinking about doing wasn’t important to us, we wouldn’t give it a second thought on the off chance that we did it or not and we wouldn’t feel fear when we contemplated it or attempted to move towards it.

How Might You Tell in the event that You are Feel­ing a Good Fear

A decent fear would one say one is that is try­ing to help you, or a pro­tec­tive fear, one that is try­ing to pre­vent you from hurt­ing yourself??

An effec­tive tech­nique is to rec­og­nize when you are feel­ing fear­ful and to iden­tify what you are think­ing about or doing that evoked the fear reaction.

Take, for exam­ple, a sit­u­a­tion where you are think­ing about mak­ing a noteworthy lifestyle change. You need to incor­po­rate into your life some­thing you have been dream­ing about improving the situation quite a while, such as becom­ing independently employed or becom­ing a pro­fes­sional Travel Writer.

On the off chance that each time you start to consider open­ing your own busi­ness or being a Travel Writer you start to feel fear­ful, at that point you ought to ana­lyze that fear. Inquire as to whether the fear is iden­ti­fy­ing some­thing that is impor­tant to you, or is the fear try­ing to pro­tect you from hurt­ing yourself?

In the event that you trust the fear is try­ing to pro­tect you from hurt­ing your­self, at that point influence a rundown of every­thing you to can think about that may hurt you in the event that you rolled out this improvement. Experience the rundown and iden­tify any fear that is identified with a sit­u­a­tion that you can build up a cop­ing strat­egy for. The cop­ing strat­egy could be any­thing that either diminished the effect of the sit­u­a­tion, changed the way you felt about the sit­u­a­tion, or elim­i­nated the sit­u­a­tion all together.

Cop­ing Strate­gies Can Help Over­come Fear

In the event that you can iden­tify cop­ing strate­gies for most or the greater part of the fears you iden­ti­fied, at that point the orig­i­nal fear you felt was probably going to have been a decent fear. This is the sort of fear that iden­ti­fies things that are impor­tant to you and tells you are on your correct way.

I did this exer­cise as of late and was very sur­prised by the outcomes. Obviously, these weren’t my fears that I was ana­lyz­ing, which made the exer­cise a ton eas­ier to do.

A couple of years back a Loca­tion Inde­pen­dent/Dig­i­tal Nomad Sur­vey was run online to an audi­ence that was either liv­ing the loca­tion inde­pen­dent lifestyle, or was to a great degree inter­ested in cre­at­ing an inde­pen­dent lifestyle. The creator’s of the examination iden­ti­fied 268 peo­ple respond­ing to the investigation (94 indi­vid­u­als who were liv­ing a loca­tion inde­pen­dent lifestyle, and 174 aspir­ing loca­tion inde­pen­dents). The loca­tion indepen­dent lifestyle is a lifestyle outline that com­bines exten­sive go with a profession or independent work, some­thing that requires a genuinely high fear limit.

One of the ques­tions asked par­tic­i­pants to iden­tify fears that they had regard­ing either liv­ing this lifestyle, or plan­ning to carry on with this lifestyle.

A sum of 86 special fears were shared by the 268 par­tic­i­pants. Sev­eral of the fears were shared by many the respondents.

In look­ing at each fear I inquired as to whether I could build up a cop­ing strat­egy for that fear, or if this was a ‘pro­tec­tive’ fear that iden­ti­fied a sit­u­a­tion that would be absolutely past my con­trol and there­fore some­thing I couldn’t build up a cop­ing strat­egy for and ought to fear. More than 90% of the iden­ti­fied fears were fears that a cop­ing mech­a­nism could be iden­ti­fied for, with under 10% being the ‘pro­tec­tive’ sort of fear – fears that iden­ti­fied sit­u­a­tions that were out­side of the person’s con­trol. What I discovered most inter­est­ing was that 80% of the ‘pro­tec­tive fears’ were iden­ti­fied by peo­ple who were at that point liv­ing a loca­tion inde­pen­dent lifestyle (these included fears of plane accidents, bor­der con­trol prob­lems, not get­ting home in time if a friend or family member passed on, those sorts of fears).

Utilizing being ‘fear fit’, it appears that the aspir­ing Loca­tion Independent/Digital Nomads that par­tic­i­pated in the sur­vey were expe­ri­enc­ing the ‘great fear’ – the sort of fear that indi­cates that they have discovered a lifestyle decision that is impor­tant to them.

So the principal half of being ‘fear fit’ is to iden­tify and ana­lyze your fears with the goal for you to deter­mine which fears are act­ing like a ‘fear radar’ and are show­ing you what is impor­tant to you, and which fears are the ‘battle or flight’ kind of fears that are pro­tect­ing you from hurt.

The sec­ond half of being ‘fear fit’ is to figure out how to discover the bravery to extend your com­fort zone with the goal that you can quit let­ting your fears pre­vent you from doing things that are impor­tant to you.

One exceptionally effec­tive tech­nique for over­com­ing this sort of fear is to discover little, safe chal­lenges in your life and do no less than one of these chal­lenges consistently. Chal­lenges could be as sim­ple as find­ing another course to work or home from work; shop­ping in a store that you have never shopped in; adjust the fur­ni­ture in one room of your home; take a stab at eat­ing in another restau­rant; have a go at hav­ing break­fast for supper.

Basi­cally any­thing that takes you out­side of your nor­mal rou­tine, that chal­lenges your propensities can extend your com­fort zone and cause inoc­u­late your­self to little measures of fear.

As you end up comfortable with your recently extended comfort zone, challenge yourself once more. The key is to grow your comfort zone in little, simple steps. A little while later you will locate that both your fear tolerance level and your comfort zone have extended pleasantly.

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